10 August 2010

wedding thinking

{photo from here}

My wedding dress was made in the same year that this couple also wed, 1931. I know this because the lady I bought it from, told me that it was her mothers dress. The dress was sent from Swansea, which is nice seeing as I have a bit of Welsh blood from my Grandma too!
I hope she doesn't/wouldn't mind me re-designing it a bit and wearing it for my wedding too? I like the idea of wearing a bit of history, and also saving a bit of money, not too mention being totally eco friendly {well, except the electricity used to power my sewing machine that is!}.

So, we get married this Saturday at 12pm, and I'm so unexplainable excited about it all!
My parents and grandparents are divorced and nobody else in my family is married, so you can understand that maybe marriage has a different meaning to me than some others perhaps. I don't believe that being married somehow makes a relationship 'real' or more important to those who are not married, in fact I worry for those who maybe getting married too quickly or for the wrong reasons, but who am I to judge other people any way!

Nao and I are quite phobic of showing emotions outwardly infront of people, so the whole idea of standing up and parading ourselves is a bit, well, alien to us and kind of awkward. I want to make the wedding as light hearted as possible, as really I feel the main aim of the day is to get all our friends and family to meet and have a jolly good day, and see us {informally and un-religiously} tie the knot!

We have run a business together for almost 8 years now, working sometimes all through the night, and sometimes in other countries {but lately mostly at the antiques market!} so we feel pretty much committed to each other already. In fact, we probably spend at least twice as much time together as most working couples, so in that respect we are lucky and maybe that makes us a bit more bonded together! Not to mention all the other pressures and scary moments that running your own business can produce.

For me, {and i think Nao too} Marriage is a very personal thing, that is just about us, and which we do not have to explain or justify to anyone, and anyway, I cannot describe in words what it means!
Partly, because we are from opposite sides of the world originally, other couples who are the same nationality may never have to encounter a separation due to legal issues or national conflict or immigration controls. Although Nao has gained {after alot of hard work and worry} a permanent right to stay in this country, it still feels like we are not in 100% complete control of our own destinies, and marriage provides a solid block against any government requirements that could split us up.
Also, it just feels right to get married at this point and this I definitely CANNOT explain what on earth I mean by that! maybe I am looking forward to not calling him 'boyfriend' which make me feel like I am 15 or something!

So enough of my ramblings, there is so much to get done and we are leaving for the Isle of Wight tomorrow at 4am!!! as we have to go to the flower market first thing and snap up some cheap blooms to take down with us.

I shall see you all on the other side of marrydom!
By for now X

58 comments:

  1. Nice ramblings! Tomorrow is our wedding anniversary; August is a lovely month to get wed! Will be thinking of you on Saturday.

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  2. Will be thinking of you this weekend - I'm sure it will be beautiful, then you can get on with being husband and wife - so exciting!

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  3. I have just started following your blog (via Owl and Peacock) and so far, it's all very lovely!

    Best of luck for your wedding, I hope everything is exactly what you want it to be (it sounds pretty perfect to me)!

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  4. Jeeeeeeeeeee! Have a fantastic weekend, enjoy enjoy enjoy! As I´m sure you will.
    I think the same as you of marriage, and anyhow, the absolute main thing is that both you and Nao have the same outlook on marriage and on life in general, that you share the same values. And all that you have. And you also have love. Much of it.
    I think it is perfect that you get married. And all the wonderful planning and work you´ve put into this wedding, well, it will all be worth it. You will have a fantastic day on saturday!
    I will also send a few thoughts your way to Isle of Wight on saturday.
    Take care.

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  5. Have an absoultely delightful day this Saturday:) May it be filled with much laughter, merriment, memories and love!

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  6. Hope you have a lovely day, I am eagerly anticipating the photos... :)

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  7. Hope you have a great wedding day! I was never a huge wedding type myself but one of the very best things about marrying my best friend was indeed getting to talk about my HUSBAND to people rather then "boyfriend" :)

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  8. Have the most perfect day on Saturday, I couldn't give a damn about celebrity weddings in OK! etc, but I can't wait to see some footage of yours! I hope you and Nao have a wonderful life together! xxx

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  9. Hope you both have the best day on Saturday. I'm only a newbie follower too and can't wait to see the pics, glad to hear thereare people out there with similar views on marriage!Enjoy every minute! xx

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  10. I'm sending love and happiness to you both for your big day. It's a whirlwind whoosh of a wedding and it's been so exciting to read about the preparations. I'm sure I am not the only one who is looking forward to reading more about it.
    Congratulations and Much Love and Good Luck
    Louise
    {*}

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  11. Oh so many congrats to you both. I am sure it will be perfect for you...hope you show us lots of photos when it is over.

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  12. What lovely ramblings! I hope you have the most perfect wedding day and that it is all you wish for x

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  13. I agree with EVERYTHING you said about marriage. After being together since my second year of college at 19, my husband and I tied the knot, unexpectedly with no fair warning while on vacation with our closet friends. Mind you we had been together for 13 years already! It just seemed like all of the old reasons to not get married didnt matter any more. It was simply fun and "the time" HA! That was two years ago...and I still slip up and call him boyfriend...you will too!

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  14. Will be thinking of you both this Saturday! Have a wonderful,wonderful day!!

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  15. Your feelings about marriage pretty much mirror mine: as we had a child & had weathered 13 yrs together, it seemed silly to do it the normal way, and I was desperate to elope rather than stand in front of everyone, but caved in and I'm glad I did.
    Have a truly fantabulous time - how could you fail not to with all those miles and miles of bunting!

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  16. Just wanted to say that I hope you both have a fabulous Saturday with lots of laughter and fun and, of course, bunting!

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  17. Will be thinking of you both on Saturday. I think reasons for getting married are always complicated and difficult to articulate, but I think just KNOWING it's right for you both is reason enough.

    Have a wonderful day.

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  18. Hope you have an amazing day Artemix & Nao and that your camping honeymoon is great too! I'm looking forward to seeing your photos too. xx

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  19. Best of luck to both of you. It is my second wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks and I remember feeling much the same way about weddings and marriage as you do. From what you have told us about your preparations, it will be AMAZING and I am sure you will have a great time. The most important part is that you will be surrounded by people you love and that's the most wonderful feeling. Good luck and ENJOY it!

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  20. Congrats! I hope your wedding is a magical :)

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  21. "We are each of us angels with only one wing...and we fly only by embracing each other"

    Congratulations both - I wish you a day to cherish forever...

    Best - Houdini x

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  22. Anonymous10.8.10

    Sending you love on Saturday and I CANNOT wait to see the pictures and wedding blog!! TOO exciting!

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  23. Congratulations and enjoy yourselves over the next few days!

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  24. Good Luck! Good Luck! I totally know what you mean by the whole divorced families etc! Thats the way it is. It will make you stronger through your up bringing! How very exciting! Enjoy!!!!

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  25. oh my godddd ! so excited for you! have a fantastic wedding! I wish you all the best ! :))) xox

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  26. yay yay yay yay yay! Early congratulations, have a wonderful day, week, year, life! I'm so very excited for you both!

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  27. Have a wonderful wonderful day Artemis & Nao. I've been loving your blog since I stumbled across it via Tea for Joy. It seems as if you have really enjoyed the planning of this day, which I also loved when I got married (5 years ago now - ouch!). I'm sure it will be the best day of your lives - I remember being so nervous about all the attention being on me totally forgetting that it was all coming from our friends and family who I love so much so it was actually just brilliant and perfect. Please let us see some pics when you're back home - I can't wait to see how you use all that bunting! Mo. x

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  28. Wishing you love and laughter at your wedding and for the rest of your lives.

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  29. I've been reading your blog for a while now and think it's fab. So just wanted to say good luck with the big day!!

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  30. Hope you both have a wonderful day with your families and friends! Much love, Amanda xxx

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  31. Wow! good luck Nao and Artemis! Your summary of how you want your wedding to be resonates with me, i hope you have a fun, relaxed party. Im excited for you!

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  32. Spot on! A wedding is a party amongst people who love each other. And marriage is a partnership, no explanations needed. I truly wish you a most fabulous fête with all the fixin's!

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  33. Best wishes for a happy and fun wedding day. Can't wait to see your photos.

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  34. That was a very beautiful ramble. I'm sure everyone here in blogland will be thinking of you both on Saturday. Have a really wonderful and memorable day. Looking forward to reading all about it. xx

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  35. Wishing you a wonderful day and a happy ever after!!
    I married last September, and we wear the rings you made for us ever since. They are simple but beautiful rings, and I'm so glad we found you! We're a Japanese and English couple as well (the wife is the Japanese in our case) - you may remember me being pregnant when I climbed up the stairs to your shop? Now it's a 8 month baby.
    I follow your blog and get inspired all the time. Look forward to hear all about your wedding!
    Aoi

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  36. Oh it's so exciting!!!

    Wishing you a fantastic wedding day, it's been so lovely getting these glimpses into the preparations. Everything you've got planned looks so beautiful, it seems just the sort of wedding I would love to have if we ever get round to it (together 18 years & 3 bubbas!!)
    New calling as a wedding planner Artemis?! I'd hire you like a shot!!
    Can't wait to see the wedding posts :)

    Enjoy your special day, you are perfect for each-other XXX

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  37. I'll be thinking of you both on Saturday - have a wonderful, wonderful day. Looking forward to seeing the pics!

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  38. Anonymous10.8.10

    Oh many blessings for you both! I love your blog, so real and delightful. Plimosol should have been invited to be the pallbearer ;) he could bring his mouse as his date... hehe.. many puuurrrrs and mioaws for all.

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  39. Hope you both have the most amazing wedding day and life together!

    I really enjoy your blog and have loved following your preparations for the big day. You have put so much time, effort and love into the day. It is going to be an amazing fun and love filled experience for you, Nao and your guests.

    Have an amazing time...can't wait to see the pics.

    xxx

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  40. I'm so tickled pink for you! Hope the day goes smoothly and that you and Nao have to most gorgeous marriage!

    x

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  41. oh, lots of happiness to you two, have a "bellissimo" day.
    (looking forward to see the pics).
    ^.^

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  42. Have a fantsatic and sweet! Will be thinking of you both :)

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  43. Wishing you both all the very best for your lovely, personal, special, handmade day! Jane

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  44. I will be thinking of you on your special day!
    I have just returned from Yarmouth on the Island (on sunday) so i can assure you it is looking picture perfect for your big day! many happy returns on this exciting moment in your life
    Gem
    xx

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  45. Oh Artemis, wishing you and Nao lots of joy and happiness for Saturday, sure it will be wonderful!

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  46. kotukuatokarito@blogspot.com11.8.10

    Arohanui Artemis & Nao (big love) from Okarito, New Zealand!
    I'm not very good at posting comments but after following your blog for the past year JUST had to send you a wee note from the Land of the Long White Cloud! Aotearoa(NZ)I hope your day is truely magical!!!..
    Thank you so much for sharing all your gorgeous happenings with us Arohanui
    Edwina xxx

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  47. Oh so excited for you too! I love this post so much – it kind of ties with a lot of my/our thinking about weddings/marriage. Hope you guys have a lovely lighthearted day x

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  48. Anonymous11.8.10

    Have an amazing wedding Artemis & Nao! I read your blog when I was preparing for my wedding in May (I love junk too) and was thrilled when I read you'd become engaged when I checked your blog when we were on our honeymoon in Bali (I have blog addiction)!Being married is right good - you'll love it. All the best xxx

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  49. Wishing you much happiness for now and the future...it will be a very beautiful day for you both on the Island...

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  50. Have a wonderful day, enjoy every minute of it. Here's to your future together! Best wishes

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  51. Itsasne11.8.10

    This Saturday already! How time flies... I'll be thinking of you both, I'm sure i'll be great!! How could it not be, with all those lovely wedding preparations and specially with that amazing attitude you have towards the whole thing?! Can't wait to see the picts -and commentary- after the event.
    All the best!!

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  52. Have a lovely, lovely weekend! I'm actually going to a wedding this Saturday - I kind of wish it was yours so I could see all of your wedding treasure, your shell ring box and your miles and miles of beautiful bunting! Best wishes to you and your future husband! :)

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  53. Good luck and best wishes! Hope you have a beautiful day, sure looks like it should be with all your lovely preparations!

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  54. What beautiful & sincere writing... Many congratulations to you both, hope you have a wonderful day - special to you both for ever-more. As someone who is in the first year of wedded bliss - I recommend it highly!
    x

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  55. Congratulations to both of you. I hope you will have the most beautiful and memorable day of your lives. I love your blog and how you share your passions and stories with all of us, your readers. I'm very excited for you and my thoughts will be with you and your families on Saturday !

    - a reader from Edinburgh

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  56. best wishes on your wedding day! hope it's as lovely as you imagined it would be!

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  57. Wishing you both joy today!

    Sue xx

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  58. Happy wedding Artemis and Nao! xxx

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